button, I don't know what it's like having an affair or being cheated on. I am sorry you went thru that, it's awful. I do know something about having disturbing info about your T though. Unless you thoroughly discuss it, it will never go away. You will have this in the back of your mind at the one year mark, at the two year mark...etc. Whenever any other thing comes up with your t relationship, this will come up also. It will make it very difficult to disclose things, it will make it almost impossible to trust. Make a decision now to either talk thru it with your t, or to move on. Don't waste time like I did.