I really agree with Skyblue here. In fact, I'm currently in a situation where a very good friend of mine has stopped speaking with me without explanation. Since she won't tell me why, I asked a mutual friend of ours. Apparently, she heard from a "very reliable" source that I did x. I did not, have not, and would never do x. But, apparently, my friend is so convinced that she won't even give me the opportunity to tell her I didn't do it! So, I guess I'm just trying to echo the point that, sometimes (often times!) gossip is not true-- no matter how reliable the source (because the source mistakenly believes it is true!). Perhaps you should give T the benefit of the doubt and the courtesy of asking her, rather than assuming and judging with only partial information?