Hi karoliinareddish - It sounds as though your new lifestyle doesn't quite suit your husband as well as you both would have liked. Attacking you physically or threatening to do so is completely unacceptable - what if one of those knives had struck either you or your daughter? His emotional abuse is also damaging and will cause further self esteem and trust issues for you and your daughter. You both have a right to feel safe and at the moment the situation seems at a stalemate. If he is not open to the idea of marriage counselling and or individual therapy for himself i would remove yourself from the family home until he accepts that he needs to learn to change his ways. Even if this doesn't happen it will at least give you the breathing room you need to decide on what you want to do next. I hope this situation resolves positively for you - do not let your husband use the excuse that your current lifestyle is whats causing him to behave so appallingly. The blame lies with him - he may be unhappy and want to alter the situation but being emotionally abusive and lashing out at you and your daughter on occasion is not the way to go about it. Good luck.