I think you are working through it, Fuzz.

Just by realizing that your parents behavior is what triggers your feelings of invalidation with people in authority is huge.

What did the flower tell you before?

It's not always about you.

Sometimes people let their own issues get in the way of how they deal with others.

They don't realize that how they treat someone, or the vibe they put out there, is really a reflection of their own hang-ups and insecurities.

It's a two-way street Fuzz. Not always your fault.