both of the opposite people may actually want the same thing for you, just go about different ways of "helping" you.

and both of the people may be like a circle of gray, that you have separated out into black and white like yin and yang, just to make sense of it.

no don't want to be victim too deep, but it's ok to get hurt, and say, damn that ****in hurt! ouch!! or cry if you need to. have to process the hurt somehow, or it gets stuffed and comes back who knows when. then it's confusion, like why am i hurting, am i some kind of pansy ***, what the ****? leads to self-doubt, depression, even harder place to process emotions from.