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Originally Posted by button30
I was in a love less relationship for six years and I was willing to stay with her because I knew she had been abused but instead of telling me she didn't love me anymore she went and had an affair and pretended to love me!
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Originally Posted by button30
, I seen an order on her credit card bill for flowers and I checked her email and there was a message from interflora with this girls address and a message saying I love you from my ex. It broke my heart into a million pieces. If she had of said I am sorry I never meant to hurt you, all she said was I am not sorry for what I did because she knew it would hurt me.
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If you don't want to stay with this therapist because of what you found out okay - that is every client's decision and right. But why were you staying in a relationship you knew was loveless and was checking someone else's billing statement and email a good thing to do? I am not saying you were not hurt, and not to quit with this therapist if you want, just that everyone engages in behaviors that are not upstanding and that they can justify in some way or other. A therapist is no different from clients in that. It does not make her (or you or me or anyone) a totally horrible person. But if you can't get past it, you could try some other therapists and see if you like them.
(and I have had girlfriends have affairs and lie about them to me)