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Originally Posted by stopdog
If you don't want to stay with this therapist because of what you found out okay - that is every client's decision and right. But why were you staying in a relationship you knew was loveless and was checking someone else's billing statement and email a good thing to do? I am not saying you were not hurt, and not to quit with this therapist if you want, just that everyone engages in behaviors that are not upstanding and that they can justify in some way or other. A therapist is no different from clients in that. It does not make her (or you or me or anyone) a totally horrible person. But if you can't get past it, you could try some other therapists and see if you like them.
(and I have had girlfriends have affairs and lie about them to me)
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I would never check her stuff or invade her privacy under normal circumstances Stopdog, its just I needed some confirmation of what I thought was happening.
All i wanted to do was hold her and tell her everything was ok but she wouldn't even let me touch her most of the time.
I think as for this new T, maybe there is a lesson here to learn, don't know hat it is but maybe its to leaqrn to forgive and trust people. Last session she wanted me to try contact my ex to see if we could maybe sort this out and become friends bbut I refused.
I am sorry you have had girlfriends cheat and lie to you, its horrible and humiliating, I hope you are with someone who cares about you now.