I'd say that since you have the demand for being masculine in much of your life, that would be the major issue confronted in the dream. The thing with assimilation is, you don't have to make this shadow a greater part of yourself. You simply have to face it, accept that it is part of you, and ask yourself why you don't like this part of you. Here we have a secondary conflict, though - that you seek somewhere to achieve a balance and are getting apathy in its place. Masculine and feminine traits both hold the possibility for being "good". The key is to know when to let that part of you out.

So first, acknowledge that this masculine image is part of you. You couldn't be where you are in your career without it.

Second, ask why this part of you is such a bad thing. Where do you want to be less male and more of a woman?

Third, you might consider asking yourself what -you- consider masculine and what -you- consider feminine. This can be a big help in establishing what parts of yourself can be allowed to show their face and when.