Definitely all the hall marks of abuse in what you have written. If it is at all possible get out of this relationship as quick as you can. Blaming you for everything is deflecting his own inadequacies on to you and you will more than likely find that behind all this abuse of you is a man who is unhappy with himself and his life. My husband does this all the time - he is a narcissist and can't accept that the not so good aspects of his life are his own doing - they are all my fault or at the very least I am partially to blame. The one hour lecture sounds very familiar with me as well but I call it a ranting rage. Once it starts there is no stopping it. If it is at all possible for you to leave this totally dysfunctional and unhappy relationship I would recommend that you do so. Hopefully you can manage to do this and remove yourself and your daughter from this environment as it is not healthy for both of you. Over time his behaviour will erode your self confidence to the point where you will doubt yourself and this will make leaving even harder. I can see from your comment "maybe he is right" that self doubt has already started. Believe in yourself, listen to your inner voice, trust your judgements and find strength. In the meantime do not let his comments affect you. Try wherever possible to avoid subjecting yourself to his verbal abuse. I do this by totally avoiding "hot" topics and refraining from saying what I would like to say in order to keep peace. Hopefully you can make a clean break but please whatever you do don't let on to him that you are considering this as this will just fuel further abuse and could get nasty. You need to prepare carefully and give little if any notice. All the best and look towards a brighter future for yourself and your daughter.