Good thing you went, good job!! Yes, really hard part about this, is the enabling, thinking we're helping then by getting them outa trouble, doing their work for them, paying the price for their errors. We exhaust ourselves until we cannot function! These guys are old enough to know the right from wrong that we taught them. Every time we bail them out, we're saying we don't think you can handle it. And then they walk all over us, do whatever they want, think they're the boss. But really, to teach them to be men, we need to believe in them that they can get through the hard work of fixing their mistakes. And still be there to love them unconditionally. Mine tells me I don't love him because I didn't pay for this or this. I say dont you ever compare how much i love you to the price of a material item, I love you more than words can explain.