This is to try to help out-- this helped me out a little- I do have a question or two here...
I hope this does not need a trigger button, but I do encourage others to look at the flow chart on this website...
http://www.psychologytools.org/asset...ormulation.pdf
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This is something that I looked at a few months ago--
something just clicked just now for me.... I don't think fully but at the same time a little click of "oh".. I think I get it a little..
Avoidance will not change the memory or thought patterns.... Avoidance just lets them continue...
Though I don't fully understand how -- Not Avoiding can change the memory-- is it that it changes out look on the memory? Or is simply "facing the memory" helpful? (This thought scares me to be honest-- I can not go back and face it- They pop up on their (memories) own it seems like.... I guess this is where a therapist guides and keeps one on the right track?
((**Edit: Though I do get the concept of "don't think of a white polar bear; try your best not to think of a white polar bear... close your eyes... what do you see-- For me when i did this- I did see a white polar bear-- meaning trying to avoid thinking of a white polar bear just made me think of it more.... so I get that concept of avoiding memories and the effect of it)) but I guess I don't get it fully due to I have memories that just pop up**))
I know this will be an example of the simplistic ways: (Please do correct me if I am wrong here)
My Example- It is not a trauma per say (but it does not help my thinking patterns on a lot of levels-- it continues with my toxic thinking)
My Job... (I will not rant about it I will lay it out simply as an example)
- I will admit sometimes, I avoid with moving on due to scared that everywhere else is the same....
- Avoidance of moving on to another job, is not helping me with thinking differently of "you try and try and try and still get knocked down" or "people just exploit you if you are nice and hard worker" or "if you work hard you will just be used and not appreciated" -- or "only under handing people move up in the word".
- Avoidance comes coupled with I "can't" do better, or I "must deserve this crap hole"....
I get a lot of triggers at my work with my supervisor and some of my co-workers.... triggers that range from my childhood sadly ... perhaps it is all just projection (actually some of it is but not all of it-- others that claim to be "normal" have trouble at my work with these people that i do- I just take it way too deeply i guess)....
Any other thoughts on this-- I hope this work sheet helps some out as well...
(Sort of an encouragement (a little one) to say hey--- maybe therapy try again?? or at least something needs to be done!).... Sorry I guess this is sparking in me due to what my S/O said the other day (which I know with the recent things I need to talk to him about) but he mentioned-- Well maybe we can try therapy if you still feel this way when you are 30
I don't want to wait till I am thirty... I am wasting too much time right now at 25 almost 26 i think to myself today.... other times -- I think he has seen progress in me, he believes some time,... Time does help with healing... I wonder if he would think EMDR would be a good treatment?
Any ways-_ I hope this helps some, and if some have some things to clarify I am ears opened
