I disagree. You may know the generalities, but you don't have the perspective from her, who actually lived it. Anything less than discussing this directly with your T will just leave you wondering about her motivations, how it affected her, how she feels about the entire scenario, etc. Would you want people only relying on what other people say and how other people interpret things that have happened in your life? No, you'd much rather be able to tell your own story and speak for yourself. Why would your T prefer you to go by hearsay about something that is affecting your perspective of what kind of person/T she is? At least give her the DIRECT opportunity to have her say.