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Originally Posted by hankster
If we look back at the original post, this was about the pot calling the kettle black. T was saying maybe button's mom wasn't the most affectionate mom in the world, and now the point is, at least mom never did what T did. Or caused what T did. That why button identifies with T's H, as the victim. But also why you won't confront T, just as you won't confront your mother. Just as T's H prefers to play the victim role - there is power in being the "victim". My mother, but moreso her sister, are extremely loud "victims". "You can't do that, I'll DIIIIIEE if you do that!!!" So I don't know what twist of fate brought you two together - altho she did know your story and may have thought she could help you, where your previous T was not making progress.
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The cruel twist of faith was that I purposely didn't choose this T. i left it to my insurance to pick her because of my luck with the last T and who did they pick last T s supervisor. It is a cruel twist of faith that we should both come together thye villian and the victim.
I don't want to be the victim forever thats why I went to therapy to try change my way of thinking and better myself.
I agree with you hankster that I cant confront T like i can't confront my mother even though its what T encourages. I just feel so sad right now, I am so dissapointed that T did this and she listens to me while I am so heartbroken and asks me the sordid details of how I found out about the affair and all the while she was probably thinking oh thats what i did wrong in my affair.
I really liked this T before and now I wont be able to look at her again. How dare she sit there and tell me everything will be ok