Daniella, thanks for your kind words. I do not even remember the words in your original post. Just to show I have no hard feelings here.
I generally do not take replies to my posts personally. I understand that in many cases the replies are reflective of the poster's personal experience. A lot of people (including myself) are hurting inside. And we read threads that push certain buttons in us... I understand that. What is helpful in a supportive community as this is to be aware of our triggers and process the pain it evokes. Tall order, huh?
I checked out the website mentioned above. I learned a lot by observing the defensiveness in many posts. By listening closely I heard about psychic pain, and denial of it, shame, body image issues,etc. and that was instructive as well. I learned a lot about myself, as reading others' posts stimulated some introspection, which led to greater self-awareness.
I'm still looking for the kind of forum where folks are open to explore their past and how that has impacted their gender issues, sexual orientation, etc. Without expectation of changing it. Although there's a chance that when the underlying psychic pain is worked through these issues do as well.
Personally, I'm respectful of either view. Humans are so complex, allow their complexity to be, and leave it to them to deal with it in whichever way they want to.
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