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Originally Posted by ponder1973
I try never to masturbate. I am male. Married.
I am a sex addict though so I am totally different and the rules that apply to me don't apply to normies. I try to let my wife initiate sex and I try not to manipulate her into initiating sex.
Sometimes I can go weeks with no sexual activity of any kind and not even miss it. Other times I can't seem to last more than an hour or two.
Everyone is different, even among addicts. My goal is to stop being driven and controlled by lust. If I don't I will eventually end up imprisoned, diseased, divorced without contact with my babies and penniless. It has become obvious to me that any viewing of pornography or masturbation takes me further along the addiction. I have to stop. That doesn't mean everyone should do what I do. I'm sorry I implied that. I'm just giving my experience.
Best of luck to all of you.
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Wow! Cudo's to you for being so honest with yourself and others about the nature of your addiction. I wish my husband could be so insightful. We are on the verge of divorce, and are subject to loosing hundreds of thousands of dollars due to his infidelity. Even more importantly, we would have the most phenominal marriage and partnership if he didn't cheat. It seems so obvious from the outside, but he still casts the blame on other things.
Good luck with your battle. Do you mind if I add your family to my prayers?