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Originally Posted by button30
I would never check her stuff or invade her privacy under normal circumstances Stopdog, its just I needed some confirmation of what I thought was happening.
All i wanted to do was hold her and tell her everything was ok but she wouldn't even let me touch her most of the time.
I think as for this new T, maybe there is a lesson here to learn, don't know hat it is but maybe its to leaqrn to forgive and trust people. Last session she wanted me to try contact my ex to see if we could maybe sort this out and become friends bbut I refused.
I am sorry you have had girlfriends cheat and lie to you, its horrible and humiliating, I hope you are with someone who cares about you now.
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Anne 2.0 if you had read the thread properly before jumping to conclusions you would have seen that this was not a thing I would normally do is read someone elses credit card bill or emails. I did it because I wanted confirmation on what I suspected. I will hold y hands up and say it was wrong but obviously you have never had a partner cheat on you, someone that you love constantly lie to you, you would do anything to find out the truth and I really don't think this is an important issue here.
I would like to thank you all for your responses and your help with this thread and I would like to point out that I was not judging T or anyone who had an affair its just this is a VERY hurtful subject for me as I loved her so much and just wish that she could have been honest with me that she loved someone else.
i really appreciate all of your help and advice, I think I got really triggered by what Anne said. I personally don't say anything to people if I dont have anything good to say as this is supposed to be a support forum- people are hurting here and need some positivity and kind words. Even though I am angry about what I heard I have great symapathy for T and her situation, she is only human and part of me admires her for being able to get over something like that and hear me saying how hurt I am by what happened to me, it must hurt her.
I am not blaming anyone else for what happened certainly not my ex but I wish she would have had some respect for me. Every affair is different and I can't speak for other but it hurt me more than words can express.