Hi Ann923 - i don't see why the therapist would be obliged to tell your son what you told her, if anything she will hopefully use the information in a tactful way to get to the heart of your sons issues. If you are still concerned perhaps call her? Also how are you and your husband coping with this situation? Do you feel you would benefit from a support group that could advice you on what to do and help you connect with other families who are going through the same thing? All the best.