I am sorry for your troubles. My heart goes out to you...

Although there are a few people here so easily stating that the 13 yr old could be making it up, I would hesitate to make that assumption. It is true that kids do this, I'm sure but after raising 2 kids (now 20 and 18, girl and boy respectively) and having 10 and 12 yr old boys currently, I don't easily assume kids would lie about things so quickly. Although my kids are kids and can "fib" about things, to tell you the truth, they are all pretty darned honest about real serious things. A little more background. I have been married and divorced once, and separated now, awaiting divorce now (both times the exes left me for other men) -- just a background about me.

I'm not saying that it can't be true but just make sure you do everything you can to get to the bottom of this. What I'm saying is, whatever decision you make and how you handle this, please make sure you are sure of what's going on. I don't want you to lose the love of your life because you assumed he lied and was cheating with you, and I don't want to see you get hurt because you quickly believe what he's saying and find out he is a cheater.

I do agree that in 10 years, it's probably unlikely that he's been cheating all that time, it is true, eventually cheaters get caught and it's usually sooner than later. Don't let up on this til you know for sure either way! This is life changing stuff!

*hugs* Hope this works out for you!