Hi coatofdreams - first things first

From reading all the information you've provided i personally think its unlikely this girl is lying. 13 is a tricky age - she is not quite an adult and yet not quite a child either and yes she may just want her parents back together but if her father is spending as much time with them as she says he is i think this unlikely. There are a number of other things which ring alarm bells for me - the fact that you don't actually live together means you can't be for sure how else he is spending his time. Also, the fact that he went and had dinner with his daughter recently suggests he could be trying to hush things up on that end. Whats to say this girl doesn't already want to meet you? i wouldn't just take his word for it that she'll meet you when she's ready - again it sounds as though he's trying to cover things up. I would be very very suspicious. I would also demand that he tell you what it is really going on and if you are not convinced i would cease all contact until he can prove to you how the situaiton really is. This may be a difficult thing to do in some respects but the whole set up he had with you sounds a little too convenient for my ears. These are just my thoughts. I hope this situation resolves for the best. Good luck.