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Originally Posted by Mike_J
For some people it is given as a "reward" but for some people saying something like "you are not getting any" often means that you have just upset me, put me out of the mood to be intimate with you. There might be better ways to express your displeasure with someone, but saying that does send a clear message.
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I understand your point in a sense. However, the mere word "getting" implies that there is a one direction flow of sexual gratification. I may give the impression that I am opposed to those who "give" sex as a reward in all contexts. Actually I am opposed to men and women who have disregard for their other partner's view of sex not being a reward. If some men and women don't mind earning sex, that is their prerogative. If a man or woman can only be turned by their partners performance of
non-sexual tasks, again that is fine.
However, I expect to be desired when I have sex my girlfriend. When I have sex with her we are both giving and receiving sexual gratification. T
his phrase "getting some" implies sex is a chore. I would never have sex with someone who I think perceives sex as a chore.