i don't see it that way. i "crave" ice cream. i don't "crave" a trip to Mexico. i want to go to Mexico but i can't right now. i am very accepting of that. i "crave" a trip to the Navajo reservation and although i can't go right now, i'm not out of joint over it and don't feel as if i'm not resistant to acceptance of not being able to do what i crave. make sense? i'm older than dirt...so i might be seeing things from a different perspective than you.....plus i should be in bed and not up reading yet another novel and reading posts...when it's quiet and serene here.........p