Hi tex, thank you for sharing with me...i know i have to accept her for the way she is and i do...i think what happened was i let my guard down thinking she had changed some and that she wanted to be a part of my life and really be a mother who cared...i mean i know she cares to some degree, or maybe she does care alot i don't know...she's never shown or spoke her feelings. Her parents aren't like that..i'm very close to them and i just don't know how she turned out this way, but i won't judge her, afterall she is woman who gave me life..lol...I just thank God...that i was able to love and care for my daughter and show her i love her...my daughter is almost 20 and still to this day we talk everyday and i always tell her i love her before we hang up or before she heads home. I never want my daughter to feel the way i have about my mother. But, you are right...we just have to accept them for the way they are, even if that means not understanding them... thank you so much, i can tell you know what i'm feeling.

No i've never asked her why she's detached and yes, i do think it might hurt her, i never want to hurt her and you sometimes i wonder if it's just that she didn't have the motherly insticts when we were growing up.

I've seen her watching me and my daughter and sometimes i wonder if she wishes she had that closeness with her own children...