I feel like that too! Like I am always bothering people even though they have said I am anything but, but it still is there in my mind! As a child I learned not to ask my mom for anything and to do everything myself! Make dinner, housework, make lunch for school and in our house everyone had to thread carefully around my mother and her moods! We were always so careful not to bother her and to take care of her! I am so aware of being needy and a burden like her that I don't answer people's texts or ts email cos I don't want to be a burden! Can you relate to any of this Lola? It sucks!