So.. it sounds like a good thing that you became unraveled? Maybe it will bring you two closer together?

I am too, quitting smoking and using the patch. my pdoc tells me that I can have up to five cigarettes a day while using it if I must. I don't know if I would/could deal with my wife saying I couldn't smoke around her though. I was a smoker when we got together, and if I must smoke then she knew what she was getting when she chose me. It is a huge stressor to have to change that part of your life for someone else, and I hope that he becomes more understanding of it. If he truly cares, then he will understand how hard quitting is and he will understand that if the patches don't work, or if they make life too hard, then you will still smoke.