elysia....at the risk of sounding cliche' , this is a conversation you need to have with her. Everyone's case is different and I am certain her stance has been created with the patience best interest in mind. So even though it feels like rejection, I don't think its a YOU specifically thing and by talking about it she can help you see its a her thing. She may have had a bad experience in the past, one will never know until they ask. Be brave.