Practice.
And I am still too loud, at times. I share too much. I get too emotional, and I still have lots of apologizing moments. You should be proud that you have a mommy mode that is so level. I must admit, that there are times that I have to apologize to my kids.
Overall, I am much better with emotion control than in my past, but I try to think first, and take a timeout when necessary.
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