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Originally Posted by Apteryx
OMG this. But an apology is also a defensive strategy - sometimes you try to defend yourself against criticism by apologising, to deflect any harsh words by getting the apology in first.
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Ya know, I hadn't thought about that, but I see your point. I didn't want to be told that I was wrong, so I apologized for being defensive before I could be told that I needed to. However, I also honestly felt that I needed to apologize. I know that in our next session, T is probably going to say it wasn't necessary, but I really felt it was.
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Originally Posted by Apteryx
Though my two ex-Ts did not ask "why" a lot. Current T, though, is like a six-year-old in that respect.
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Actually, my T rarely uses the word "why" but she always wants me to elaborate. "How did feeling defensive manifest itself?" "Where are you feeling that in your body?" Etc. If she did keep using "Why", I'd probably get frustrated and just start answering "because!"
