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Originally Posted by Jan1212
All I can think is "the bad" about my fiance
During the past week:
We were playing with an app that lets you take your face picture and tag it on a body, he pointed out the female model ones and said "I want you to look like this, and this, and that..."
We saw a commercial for sensa and another diet fat-burning pill and said "Maybe you should try that"
Whenever a hot actress would show up or on Viictoria's secret catalog from his sister he would point out "OOh look at that" or "she's hot"
He would pinch my stomach, and shake it
We were watching this R rated movie, (he's in his late 20's) and he would jump and say "Boobies!" or "nice" in front of me, he would watch "uncomfortable guy movies" when he's with me, sometimes I had to get up and walk out the room, can't he choose more appropriate movies?
He is not that attractive himself, he's close to clinically underweight and he says " that's how people should look like"...
I want to look good, but not for him anymore, he's a jerk I've told him. I've talked with him how it bothers me so many times, he keeps doing it, he did it again. The thought in my head: 'I want to look good so I can find someone else' and I feel terrible thinking about that. I was always against people replying "just leave him and it's done" it's easy to say, but it's not that simple  what else should I do? |
Possibly i could say you as well that, i would do usually "just leave him" but better i would say: If he wants a model, he only has to search her, but you are not, you are a normal girl and he chose being with you so.. why s...he has to do you responsible of that... As someone said before, that s the typical behaviour of an abusive person.
Other advice? You can not leave him, okey, so you have to PUT LIMITS. Stop him. PUT LIMITS.
When he says you things as those. just say: Hey boy, I am your girlfriend and if you are my boyfriend you have to say things as: I love you, you are so pretty.. and that type of things. If definitely i dont like you now, why are you with me? I dont go to change for you cause even changing, you will search other bad things on me. It is your personality, not my body. Hahahaha It sounds hard but...s the truth.
He has the problem. And you are good even if you are the most over- weight woman in the earth, always that you feel good in that way.It is not the body what does happy at girl, it is her mind.
Look some models...a lot of them, terribly depressed