I'm not exactly sure if this goes in this subforum or not so I apologize if it's not. (I didn't want male input on this so maybe it is the right subforum?) also I'm not sure how to be clear when revealing my thoughts, so bear with me

I have issues with my sexuality, I don't know what to call it so I don't call it anything. I've been afraid of men for a long time, yet at the same time I want their love. I'm attracted to them but I'm scared of them

I've been talking to a guy online & over the phone for a while now and I like him and trust him for the most part (I have trust issues w/ everyone). well yesterday he told me he likes me a lot too, and then we got onto the topic of soulmates and his past relationships. He told me he wants to find a mate, because he wants to be a father (I'm sure to him, that includes being in love with a woman first). I like him but it scared me a little. I don't even know if he was referring to me. I don't like the idea of being just a body to carry someone's baby. It just scared me because I get the idea that it's just to be used, even though there is no further evidence than his phrase "I want to find a mate". when I get scared I retreat mentally, and I don't reply to their calls/texts. I don't want to hurt him by this, but I'm feeling ambivalent about talking to him now.
Just the fact that he's male deters me. If he was a woman I would be 100% more comfortable.
I don't really know what I'm asking for, maybe just some sort of input?