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Originally Posted by autotelica
where she falls down on the job a little is making me feel okay about not feeling okay.
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This is an important part of therapy I think. We need to be able to voice our sadness and let it into the room. We need to mourn in order for it to pass. If you don't let it out without someone minimizing it, it won't pass.
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Originally Posted by autotelica
I like that she's so no-nonsense and hard-azz sometimes. It resonates with how I was raised...to be strong in the face of adversity and not be a crybaby. It makes me feel tough.
I don't like always having to be strong
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Originally Posted by autotelica
Thing is, when she's say something sympathetic, I don't believe she's always genuine. Because I know she's so no-nonsense. So when she says, "That sounds real awful. I'm sorry that you're going through that!" I want to tell her to get off it.
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I'm wondering if this is transference where you are sending strong signals that you are not comfortable with this so she tries not to do it but it is exactly what you need?
I agree that you need to be doing 80% of the talking.