I will answer the replies in a minute. I'm so aware now, and I just want to cry. I realize that I have to stop making my T so important to me. I've GOT to do that. I would be very depressed if she were to die. How do I make her less important to me? I seem to manage okay until I see her. But I don't want to quit therapy. I've got to work on my other issues in therapy, like shame. That helps me. I don't know why I refuse to do that.