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How do you deal with being invalidated? Especially by controlling people, or those in positions of authority. It is a huge trigger for me. They seem to blame me and never forgive me. Yuck. Yep, just like my parents

This is truly not about anyone here. I have worked through some conflicts both here and elsewhere and I am grateful for that. But some things remain unresolved and I feel hated, worthless..... the list goes on

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It's so hard to shake off negative associations that result from our past. I'm sorry your parents invalidated you. I don't think parents realise how painful that can be, and how indelible that pain can be.
You've been so brave in working on those issues, and although I'm sorry to hear that they have not been revolved, I think you should give yourself credit for what you have accomplished. You're so terribly hard on yourself.
You're not hated and you're certainly not worthless. I know that doesn't dispel how you're feeling, but say it out loud if you have to, so that it will hopefully sink in eventually.
(((Fuzzy)))