i feel safe here.

addressing problems in PMs and keeping it to yourself helps you have a safety net.

this is a MENTAL HEALTH FORUM> it is not IRL> putting most of your eggs in the PC basket isn't healthy. there has to be a balance here. everyone here has different issues and most of those that can't be discusssed publicly can be discussed in PMs.

just because i don't agree with someone doesn't mean the safety of PC is threatened..at least not to me.....and vice versa.

what makes me NOT feel safe is when members allude to some issue that they have and it makes numerous people feel like it might be them that the poster is talking about. i thought that KD had made it clear that if we have an issue.......PM it. personalities are fragile here. that ought to be a given in all of our approaches to posting.

if someone is put off by something i post, PM me about it. it's the adult thing to do. i'll do the same. i may not like all of the guidelines, but i especially like the PM if you're upset rule.

and try not to read between the lines here. assuming that we are the center of the universe never works. there is a saying in Al-Anon that computes out to this, "you may be thinking that someone is thinking something negative and the person isn't thinking of you at all."

take it to PMs and keep it out of the forums and it will all fall into place. paranoia runs deep here. subjecting anyone here to wondering if a poster is talking about them, in my mind, is needless and at times cruel. realizing that the world is populated by numbers that don't revolve around ourselves is crucial to recovery. no one here is the center of the universe and that definitely goes for me. my real universe is IRL> this is only a small part of it.