(((merlin87tx)))

I don't think that you are being overly-dramatic at all.

Personally, I'd be worried too! It sounds as though he's shutting you out of his mind right now. Have you talked about issues that aren't related to your concerns about his use of this Salvia or Spice stuff? Just curious how he reacts to other conversations. Does he do any of the talking? Or is he more of the quiet type of guy, who speaks up briefly on topics that interest him, like sports or weather?

If your fiance really is set on sticking with smoking his stuff, despite your valid concerns, that's your answer on where you stand in his life. That would seriously have me wondering what he would be like after the marriage if he's this set on his ways now. He needs professional help. He really should be more emotionally committed to you than he is to the smoke stuff.

Regarding your frustration, anger, and hurt... I am sorry. Hopefully, you will be able to convince your fiance that he needs professional help to get over this hurdle. I know that it wouldn't be easy for you, and you wouldn't get your money back for the plane tickets ~ but it's better to cut your losses now before the investment (financial, emotional, physical) grows larger. Maybe you'll be able to re-connect after he gets some help. That would be the best investment to make!

Wishing you the best ~ you're in my thoughts!