My narcissistic husband has this amazing ability to ruffle my feathers every time he opens his mouth. We can hardly have a conversation that doesn't end in us having a fight and mostly over absolutely nothing. Today was a classic example = in the course of our conversation about things he adopted his condesending, authoritarian voice to dominate the conversation and me. I asked him in a nice way to keep his voice down as he cranks up the volume to assert more power over me. Well that was like waving a red flag to a bull and before I knew it I was being verbally assaulted. I left that situation by standing up and telling him that I didn't need to be subjected to that and after 5 minutes he follows me to continue with the verbal lashing. He effectively twisted everything around to make it look like I was at fault and accused me of deliberately starting a fight by asking him to keep his voice down because in his mind that is my way of saying I don't want to listen to what you have to say. I couldn't get two words in after that and was subjected to more crap and eventually he decided to leave the room in an exasperated state (all caused by me remember). After 1 hour or so the verbal rage had stopped but was replaced with a no talky talky sulking behaviour akin to a 2 year old. When I asked him what was wrong? he replied in a condescending, smart mannered way "Wrong .... there's nothing wrong with me. Ask yourself that question" and they were his parting words as he left the house. He upsets me so much I could literally scream with frustration. I feel my face go red, my heart beat faster and it takes a while to get over it. I can't leave this relationship for so many different complicated reasons and for now am forced to live in it. How the hell can I stay sane having to put up with this crap every other day?