I agree with the other members, the way you have been treated is not ok and it is not acceptable. Make a safety plan and leave as soon as you can. It is very important that you and your daughter get counseling, too.

You and your daughter have experienced abuse. Your daughter is impressionable. She deserves a healthy go at life and to know that your H's behavior is not the "norm". No physical, emotional or mental abuse is EVER ok. You deserve peace, as well (break the cycle for her, if for nothing else).

Please let us know how you are doing.