Again little pals I truly appreciate your suggestions. I have so much to think thru I and my daughter are on the same page neither of us feel safe when he comes home... and what type of lecture we are going to receive We now typically pretend to be asleep. This has been going on for a while... and of course, according to him - he is perfect . Finally I am feeling better mentally, but still very volitale. He tells me to seek help/support... which I do, and the gets super angry I did . His reasoning - why do you want to pay any money to other... after several hour rant.... because I CAN DO IT FOR YOU FREE... IF YOU WOULD JUST LISTEN!!! We hane been married 25 years, and yes he has always been jelous... but now... life is all about him & how great he is ... It does help to hear your opinions.