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Originally Posted by SidOHara1
So for anyone who followed my last post I did what feels like a month ago, but was probably just 3 short weeks, you know where I'm at right now.
So while this whole thing was going on, there was this girl who for interent's sake we'll refer to as Jane...
So while I'm getting over this brutal breakup and ending of a friendship, Jane mentions how she likes me.
She went on to mention a few weeks ago how she loves me and how much she cares about me. I have asked why so many times, and she says I'm amazing...
So she broke up with her ex girlfriend a week or two ago, and I wanted to give her space.
Last weekend I ask her out, and her response was that this other guy had asked her out earlier that day, and that she "couldn't say no to him."
Needless to say, I'm kinda pissed.
So I talked to her again and asked her how everything was going. Jane told me that the guy was just using her for sex, and that she isn't a big fan of that.
When I asked her why she was still dating him then, she said that she felt sorry for him because he was going through some ****.
I don't *think* I'm a complete douchenozzle, so I could respect that...
But now she's mentioning how much she loves me even more and more now... it actually has me a bit annoyed, and she knows it.
SO NOW THIS IS WHERE I NEED ANYONE'S HELP!
Do I tell her it's either him or me?
Or do I just sit by and wait for my chance to (for a lack of a better term) snatch her up?
I am usually patient, so if I am to do the latter, I could probably wait. I've been doing that for a while anyhow....
Thanks,
Sid/CJ
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Hi Sid,
Personally, I think you should be straight forward with her. If you guys are really friends, she will respect you for your honesty. Also, I am a female and I can tell you that I would much rather a guy be straight and up-front and if you want her, then tell her! Plus, you don't deserve to play second fiddle to anyone. If you like her and want to pursue it, tell her. If it is right then you two will give it a shot and if not then you will never have regrets because you didn't pursue her...and if not then hopefully you two can still be friends.
Good Luck
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