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Irreplaceable · Sep 20, 2012, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by SidOHara1

So for anyone who followed my last post I did what feels like a month ago, but was probably just 3 short weeks, you know where I'm at right now.

So while this whole thing was going on, there was this girl who for interent's sake we'll refer to as Jane...

So while I'm getting over this brutal breakup and ending of a friendship, Jane mentions how she likes me.

She went on to mention a few weeks ago how she loves me and how much she cares about me. I have asked why so many times, and she says I'm amazing...

So she broke up with her ex girlfriend a week or two ago, and I wanted to give her space.

Last weekend I ask her out, and her response was that this other guy had asked her out earlier that day, and that she "couldn't say no to him."

Needless to say, I'm kinda pissed.

So I talked to her again and asked her how everything was going. Jane told me that the guy was just using her for sex, and that she isn't a big fan of that.

When I asked her why she was still dating him then, she said that she felt sorry for him because he was going through some ****.
I don't *think* I'm a complete douchenozzle, so I could respect that...

But now she's mentioning how much she loves me even more and more now... it actually has me a bit annoyed, and she knows it.

SO NOW THIS IS WHERE I NEED ANYONE'S HELP!

Do I tell her it's either him or me?
Or do I just sit by and wait for my chance to (for a lack of a better term) snatch her up?
I am usually patient, so if I am to do the latter, I could probably wait. I've been doing that for a while anyhow....

Thanks,
Sid/CJ

The bolded is my response to your question... However, I would also consider keeping your options open as far as dating other people.... If she truely loves you, another man wouldn't keep her away from you. Keep that in mind.... You may have been some type of rebound for her which is why she said she loves you... At any rate, she sounds like she doesn't know what she wants... Breaking up with the girlfriend, saying she loves you, then going out AND sleeping with someone else all within a one to two week time frame... I dunno... Point being, don't put your faith in her as far as having a relationship.... Keep her on deck/around, but do you and date other people. If she really really wanted you, you wouldn't have created this post because her actions and words would back up her feelings...

Edit: Let me put my personal experience on here... Because I'm KINDA going through the same thing. Me being in her spot, minus the sleeping with another guy thing... For me, the guy that is waiting, right now he's winning. He's patient, understanding of my situation, and giving me the space I need while having/building a relationship with him. I gave you the advice I gave you up top from what you wrote... However, for me personally, I want to be with him, but right now today isn't the right time to make something like that official for various reasons... He understands that, is letting me sort through things, and is waiting on me to give the green light... I can't say how she feels because I don't know her. But if she wants you, trust me, she will make it very clear to you and no one else will be able to take her attention away from you. She wouldn't allow other people to occupy her time... Trust me on this. She will make it clear how she feels and will not give another man a chance because she knows she has you... Same situation for me... He's a friend and giving me time and space because he knows the end result is what? HAVING ME :-)

Good luck!