Leed you made me laugh saying that if your ex wasn't dead you'd swear I was married to him. OMG are you telling me that there are more out there just like this!! And your 100% spot on about him believing that there is nothing wrong with HIM. Taking him to therapy would be like p***ing in the wind. He would also manage to make me look like I am the one with the mental problems as he always does. Amazing how these people can fool others into believing that they are the epitomy of a well balanced, emotionally stable individual and any problems have to be with the other person. Smart, cunning, manipulative and so full of themselves it's nauseating. Life's school has taught me well in realising that what you see is not what you get. I hope I can pass on the knowledge to my kids and make sure that they never get themselves into a dysfunctional relationship.