To me this sounds more like a way to make suggestions. Since she has more experience then you her knowledge has to come out some how. Is there another way you like for her ask about things. If this way of asking is bothering you it is the way it is phrased not the suggestion that this was positive in the past. How would you like her to suggest that? Maybe that would be a better way of looking at this.

Sometimes it's the little communication differences that change everything. ex. I Husband "What" when he said something from the other room. He came to the room I was in and raised his voice to me and repeated what he said loudly and I got angry because he was to loud. We decided that to communicate what was really mint. I should have said "repeat that" or "come closer so I can understand you"if I can't hear you and you need to speek louder say "I'm having trouble hearing you". This has been an real argument saver. Find an agreeable way to say what you mean to so the other one can hear you. Hearing and having needs met is not always about the ears. It's about the heart and mind and ears to.