<FONT style="BACKGROUND-COLORink"><FONT STYLE="color:blue">With so much material to cover for THIS site, I don't think we need to rag on about OTHER sites or even the internet at large...................

Perhaps some of the frustration is that we don't expect nor do we want the problems of other sites, here? Some of what is being discussed IMO is administration issues, and might be best to not discuss here, but let the admin/mod team deal with it should it arise with a member.......................................

For me, knowing that someone is a member of many online sites does nothing. This site is different and problems arise, imo, when members are on more sites and especially if they come from a site that allows the bickering and backbiting; it takes an hour or so on this site to assimilate back to the supportive nature of PC, IMO............................................................

I'm concerned that members here, knowing all the tools to use to reduce frustration, still rant about all their frustrations here. What's up with that? How does it work, that I could know all the coping mechanisms to help me keep from becoming frustrated, because I am responsible for my own experience here, and then elaborate on what and how much I am frustrated? I don't know about that................................................................
Sometimes frustrations come when a member is too emotionally involved in another's post...taking it personally even. Certainly, there is cause for little frustration if one can step back away from the thread... and realize, that unless it is attacking them personally... there's no reason to be frustrated?

IMO some members are more upset with their own posting than others are. Think about this.... it might also be why many more members read than post. There isn't anyone here, I don't think, that is fully secure in their posting...that if a Mod PMd us about it, we wouldn't at first think OH NO! and go check it and maybe try to change it, so the post is more accomodating???

Some ppl, due to their frustration of their DISORDERS perhaps, post very little, maybe only an icon at times (I do this) or they post elaborately, trying to cover all the bases, not being sure of what exactly they should say in few words????

If I feel frustration, it's because I am involving myself (too much so?) in the poster's life. If I know background detail and then see another post that is a result of something they are working on and it went wrong... sigh... that can concern me... if I allow it to... But we are all here to better ourselves in some area, imo.

Some of us are here for healing from our disorders, some to better learn how to help others here, some to learn both...maybe some are here just to learn how to post and fit into an online community?

IMO I will know I am healthier when I don't have to ignore ppl here... when I can fully allow everyone to post the way they post and not feel insulted. This will be most difficult I think, for me, when there is a "factual error" in the posting. Sometimes I feel it's important to notify a mod, or try and PM the person...suggesting that might be true in their own life, but if it was taken from a textbook, the book might be out of date?

For me, if I post something that doesn't click for you, or holds an error, isn't enough for clarity, or is verbose and unnecessary IN YOUR MIND... then PM me. I feel that changing the way I post doesn't reflect upon who I am. I think trying to post so that as many ppl as possible get something positive from it, is a desireable goal.

We all have many thoughts and opinions about most topics posted here, imo. I wouldn't try to tell you all I know about an issue... that isn't support to me. Trying to find you where you are, and adding a small step to help you move, well... that's what I like to read too!



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