Yes, don't forget this!


It doesn't matter if they didn't mean to hurt you. What they did still affected you.

True.

Hmmm, think about this. Sounds like your parents were closed off too so this is why you had to develop your own world?

I don't know what you mean "closed off". I didn't tell my Mom anything personal that bothered me, like my feelings! I wasn't closed off in other ways. I would have been happier if I would have talked about what upset me, like when I didn't have friends in my new school when I was 9 and 10 years old, and it would have been helpful if I could have talked about the "not talking". The pediatrician told them I would outgrow it, so they weren't at fault for not doing anything about it, though.

Again, you must have not been allowed into their world (because this was the type of people that they were, emotionally closed off).
My Dad was very quiet; my Mom worried a lot. We all knew that. I don't know if that's considered emotionally closed off. She worried about us, her kids.

Not feeling secure while growing up?

I felt secure that I was loved, just couldn't confide in my parents.

Ditto.


Maybe this is why you aren't pulling together all of this info Rainbow because you aren't really allowing yourself to connect with it and digest it and really figure out what it all means to you?

Right, because I don't understand what it means to me. I get confused about it.

Because you didn't get this as a child.

And if your parents wouldn't let you in, T is triggering this by not letting you in also?????????????