Oh Leeds I can relate to everything you say +++ with the exception that my mother lives with us and knows only too well what an obnoxious, self inflated, nasty person he is. Needless to say she does NOT like him and merely tolerates him out of necessity. My H does not like her either because she speaks her mind and he is powerless to be able to do anything - can't talk like crap to her, can't control and dominate an old lady, etc. That's why he doesn't like her. He only likes those he has hoodwinked and those he can control. Everyone else is a thorn in his side. I have one girlfriend like a sister that has been around our family for 25 years and she is the only person outside that knows what he is like. Other than that everyone else thinks he is a wonderful, warm, kind hearted, generous, soft, caring individual. AAARRRGGGGHHH is exactly how I feel as well. Congrats Leed on divorcing him that must have given you so much satisfaction !! even though I am sure he believed that it was all your fault that the marriage disintergrated. You've given me light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks