My T and I have sent each other links to videos, forwards, etc. When she first did this, I was surprised, as I wondered if it crossed boundaries. Then I sent her photos of my kids and grandkids because we didn't print photos anymore. She said she liked them and it was fine.

In fact, tonight I sent her a very moving video that made me cry. I decided that it's okay to send her those kinds of emails. I'm trying to find a middle ground between "she's nothing to me and she's everything to me". And "it's not okay to email vs some kind of email connection makes me feel better."

Why are you ashamed of sending the link? I think you should talk to her about, whether it's okay, and your worry about her thinking you're doing it like friends do.

When my T first sent me something, or maybe I something to her, I did tell her it kind of bothered me, and said that's what friends do. She doesn't think it's wrong, and doesn't think it makes us friends, even though friends do that. Having BPD, it is a little confusing to me but it's a way of connecting but not making it "too much". If it's too much, I shouldn't do it, and neither should you.

Sorry I rambled on so much, but I found your post interesting. I wonder if others send links to videos, or forwards to their T, or do you find it crosses boundaries?

Fixated, if your T responded "very cool", then it's okay with her, it seems. Please discuss it with her, for your own piece of mind.