"...it's at the point now where I wake up in the mornings with anywhere between 30 and 50 text messages about 20 missed calls ALL from him. and he always asks me why aren't you anwering me why are you ignoring me have you moved on are you with another guy.."

Holy cow!! 30-50 text messages AND 20 missed calls daily???! That's pretty excessive. And, believe me, that's an understatement!

I would advise you to seriously tell your ex-fiance to back off. Is he trying to scare the heck out of you?? Because that's what his behavior tells me ~ that he's trying to push you back into being with him. He called off the wedding (thank goodness!) and you are now going on with your life. If he truly wants to prove his love and commitment to you, then he should go to T and come up with healthy techniques to work through his anxieties.

Sadly, in this day and age, it is not uncommon for people to let their emotions take them too far. They let their intense emotions control their behavior, which is what this sounds like to me. And that scares me! I worry that your ex will be unable to hold himself back from reacting intensely if/when you were to date another. You shouldn't have to live under this dark cloud following you throughout the days and nights. Seriously!! If your ex refuses to back off, you just might need to get some professional assistance (from a court and/or police) to gain safety.

I hope that my response doesn't seem way out of the ballpark to you. It is sadly a reality that women really do need to take into account. (I refer to women, because men are generally much stronger than women. Women's attacks on men are therefore different.)