years back I discovered my 25 yrs girlfriend was cheating on me with a 48 yrs man...

I was 30 and thought I was pretty smooth...shocked and disappointed I was! at all this.

she had issues with her father...hadn't seen him in years and years.

Mr 48 yr old had issues with his daughter...whatever they were...'didn't want to know'...just that he hadn't seen her for years and years

not sayin' this is whats happening...not for you

I just could not separate them.....threats to him...abandoning her to get her to respond!....nothing worked

...or it could be that you both just really like each other alot.

affection does not need the "considered to be right" setting sometimes