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Originally Posted by CantExplain
Now that I have a plan for dealing with her, I'm starting to think about what she said.
I always knew I was a powerful debater, but now I'm starting to wonder if I might be a bully. Is that what she was trying to say?
It's not fair to use your superior strength against other people. Does the same apply to superior powers of argument?
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I think you might be onto something here. It appears that she was sticking to her guns as much as you were, so I wonder if that was a strategy to see how you would handle the escalation.
How we handle disagreements is very telling in therapy...and becomes very useful information. Ultimately, there is no real right or wrong...it's about what feelings are elicited, negotiating getting our needs met, and understanding our behaviors.