Hi Anthony81 - this is a great question, so thanks for asking it and I have been avidly reading the replies. I am a 34 year old guy who has been wondering about this exact same thing for years. I always get bitter about dates etc, and yes - part of that is because I don't think I'm very good at them. The other part is, it always feels like I am a puppet on the end of the females string - I constantly yearn and ache for female intimacy. This reveales itself mentally and physically on dates - it gets hard to conceal and I hate having to. I get embarrassed and tongue tied on dates, and the vicious circle continues.
I have often wondered what would happen if I could meet the female equivalent of me. I don't personally believe she exists but I am always hopeful. I have been on quite a lot of dates over the last 3 years - very few have been successful and 9 out of 10 have ended up with me in a really quite uncontrollable and embarrassing state of arousal being told 'goodnight' or 'i will call you soon' by a woman who obviously isn't in the same state.. I really hate dates! The last one I had I begged her to come back to my place for 'just a hj if nothing else'.... I know! Its mortifying. And out of character, but I was fed up And for the record, she said no. Of course.
Thanks again for asking a great question and you're not on your own here mate.