Wow well I can understand why you would seek a relationship outside of yours. I sont blame you for wanting to be wanted all of us want that. My parents where kind of like this I assume either one of them where cheating on each other not sure if my assumption is true or not but either way they where wrong for each other and on us kids it made it difficult to live with. Basically saying I dont think it will hurt your daughters like you think, because they may be able to sense it to. I thought you would be hurting him but it seems he is hurting you. Sorry I shouldn't have commented without knowing the story. Your just wanting what everyone wants so you do what you have to in order to find it. I hope you stay here it really is a great place and you shouldnt be embarrassed things happen and I think your doing what is natural. It sounds like you would be happier out of the marriage.